Wednesday, July 6, 2016

IWSG: Red Flags

Today is IWSG day, a monthly event Alex Cavanaugh started to get writers sharing about their insecurities and other stuff going on in their lives. After this year’s Blogging from A to Z Challenge, I’ve been meaning to remain more active with my blog through the summer. But I’ve been so busy with other responsibilities that I haven’t been able to do much blogging stuff. But hey, it’s IWSG day, and I’m here!

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my earlier years. I remember the lessons I learned the hard way about people and the fragility of any bond when one party doesn’t value the investment the other has made for the relationship. Those times left enough of an emotional imprint on me that even as an adult, I don’t have to look far if I ever need to locate angst, perhaps for a scene in my novel in progress or for any of the story seeds growing in my head. The silver lining is now I know how to better spot certain red flags in people. (Maybe someone only reaches out when they want a favor, for example.) This is not to say that I’m an expert. Sometimes I’ve still been fooled.

Recently, I’ve detected red flags with some people. A part of me wishes that I could ignore those flags and carry on. After all, doesn’t it seem like everyone else carries on with them, even though most likely, they know what I know? But I’ve never been like everyone else, and therefore, I am going to politely and quietly walk away.

What do you consider red flags in people?